No Young in the Church

I had a recent conversation with a friend who was frustrated with the “Singles Ministry’s” efforts to provide programs that would effectively engage young singles and men in particular for available young women to interact with at said programs.

This friend being a Christian and an Atlanta resident, has frequented several churches’ Singles Ministry initiatives in hopes of meeting wholesome available bachelors.

To her dismay, these events usually have more female than male attendees (congruent with Atlanta’s female to male ratio) and she has proposed the following rationale: the programs are not appealing to young men. Other reasons proposed by us both: the grouping of all singles together is ineffective and the church’s overall lack of room for youth (don’t worry I’ll explain).

Alright for her first notion:

1) Singles Ministry events don’t appeal to men.

My friend used the example of an advertised “Saturday brunch” is not appealing to heterosexual men. At least not young men. I have to agree, not in our culture. I mean brunches are usually referred to when women would like to meet in pairs or groups, or when a bridal or baby shower is being planned.

When is the last time you heard two heterosexual men look at each other and say, “Hey let’s do brunch on Saturday!”?

Hopefully never. ; )

2) The grouping of all singles together is ineffective.

My friend said, “What do I have in common with a 45 year old divorcee with two kids?”

I would have to say as a 29-year old, never married, no kids, my friend is probably not interested in meeting the same guy as the woman listed in my above mentioned example.

What say ye church?

Don’t get me wrong I am familiar with churches who attempted to eliminate these barriers, but I’ve also seen those who could care less.

3) Lack of Room for Youth

Hold on to your seats for this one ; ).

Growing up in the AME Church, being a member of a non-denominational church during my young adulthood, and now with a Baptist Membership I have noticed some disturbing trends and through various conversations with people from my generation, I know many others share my sentiments.

Few have taken the leap I’m taking, to actually make a statement about it though.

Why do we have to wait until a “Youth Sunday” to allow church members of age 38 years and below to be in leadership positions (not puppets) have an opportunity to speak at the podium and let their voices be heard. I would have to say even when it comes to service and missions, young people in church are dictated what they will be granted “permission to” carryout, instead of being granted a leadership position to make such decisions.

During times like these, we can’t afford to “wait for someone to die” to make a difference in the lives of others and carryout the great commission.

The time is now for young people (adults, teens, and children) to become active in church!

Will you make room?

It is not the religious tradition that turns youth away, but the lack of appropriate roles.

Without room, we run the risk of losing very talented people within our congregations.

Remember Jesus was in his early thirties when he was performing miracles. ; )

God bless you!

‘Till next time ; )


Summer Reading Fun! “God Please Clean My Room” Video

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Temporary Idleness

I woke up yesterday with the title for this piece on my mind: “Temporary Idleness”. Like I literally woke up and as usual the wheels in my brain were turning, and this phrase came to mind.

As a woman who is constantly moving and working to “make” things happen,
I struggle with waiting. Or as my husband says, “There’s nothing wrong with being still, just relax;” we both know that this is problematic for me.

Once you reach a certain age you realize that there are moments when you have done absolutely everything possible within a given situation, and there is nothing left to do, but rest, or as we, believers call it, to “wait on the Lord”.

This is hard for me as a “control freak”. Raise your hand if you can relate. I mean my given sorority name isn’t “The Dictator” for no reason. ; ). Though it’s taken me a while to accept its truth, I was a natural born/raised leader.

In my youth/young adulthood, if I walked into a seemingly chaotic situation, I would take over because I dislike disorder. In my maturity, which is developing daily, I realize that one can become easily burn-out and negatively labeled as bossy with such traits.

What does this mean?

In some instances even though you may believe you have the answer, sometimes it is not your turn.

In other words, there are other kids waiting for their chance on the merry-go-round, so step off and let them have their turn.

This may feel like idleness for a worker-bee, but it is in fact a break, a much needed vacation, a gift from God that should be graciously accepted without guilt and without regrets.

So take a rest Child! I promise this is only a season of temporary idleness given to you by God, despite what it looks like in the physical realm.

God has not forgot, so stop your worrying ; )

The vision will be fulfilled at an appointed time (see Habakkuk 2)!

God Bless You Friend and know that you are loved!

God First!

Are you easily set off by the attitudes or emotions of others?

If so, it’s time for a change!

Temperance is something to be achieved by making a choice to practice it everyday and making a personal decision to plant positive seeds into your heart before allowing any negative force to attempt to place a claim on it at the beginning of each day.

Philippians 4:7 says, “and the peace of God which surpasses all understanding , will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

Taking this into consideration, I ask that you take a moment to reflect. What are you doing to invite Christ to guard your heart?

Are you passive or active in your faith?

Have you been handed down a religion based upon tradition where you attend church because your mother told you to do so? Do you say grace before a meal out of habit and say your prayers to God at night like He’s a magic genie ready to be at your beckoned call?

If so, it’s time for a change!

You are truly doing a disservice to yourself if you don’t activate faith in your life. It’s like playing a game of spades with the highest card in your hand and not playing it, “just because”. In other words it’s time to use what you’ve got and get busy!

Do you want to be miserable or do you want to be happy? You may choose to be angry about the co-worker who snapped at you or the person who cut you off while you were driving this morning if you like ; ), but I hope you will choose happiness.

Be happy by meeting with your Heavenly Father at the beginning of your day. Be happy by writing Him love-notes and telling Him exactly how you feel. Don’t worry, it’s only human to feel apprehensive about writing to a God whom you can’t see (physically) at first, but I promise if you pursue Him, He will make His presence known to you in more ways than your basic five senses could ever desire.

Start tomorrow. Break out your journal. Put God first!

May God Bless You & Keep You!