“Be Still & Know that I am NOT God.”

As my Contextual Education placement comes to an end, I have gained much wisdom while saying,  “Goodbye.”

Though I had mixed feelings when I started at my site, which accommodates senior citizens and persons with disabilities, I walk away with cherished moments and learned life lessons.

I experienced a special moment with Nancy Love Wilson, whose name I have included with her permission.

In efforts to ensure that I “take care of myself”, Nancy shared her beliefs that despite the present generation’s obsession with it, multi-tasking is a disease.  She concluded that a person can be far more effective while focusing on one task at a time.

Nancy went a step further to share that one day while she was waiting inside of her car before meeting with someone,  she attempted to quote scripture to comfort herself. Nancy then said aloud, “Be still and know that I am NOT God”. Reportedly Nancy then thought to herself,  “Hey that’s not right.” Only to hear a still small voice say, “Oh, but it is.”

It was in this moment that Nancy resolved, as she heard her friend say before,  “I am a FHB, a flawed human being,  and that is okay.” For us, recovering perfectionists, this declaration is important for us all to make. It is important to note that we cannot be all things to all people, this would make us appear to be taking on God’s role.  As my professor Dr. Scheib says it, “the role of savior has already been taken”.  I would challenge us to remember this daily.  

Say it aloud with me,


Blessings & Peace to you my Friends!


The Good Child

Any of you who were born into a family, (all of us – even orphans) recognize that there are some us who are expected to achieve (over-achievers) and those who underachieve (slackers).  If you are offended then, I’m assuming you are the latter ; )

With that being said, I have learned– being a product of my own family and other experiential factors, that the slackers have strategically positioned themselves to not be held accountable, or asked to be responsible for anything.  So clever…I wish I would have come up with this thought myself!

I would go a step further to say that these underachievers have underwhelmed the family unit so much until, not only does the family not trust them to complete even, minuscule tasks, but the family has successfully designed a system around these underachievers to be enabled….an enabling that can endure for the rest of these underachievers lives…

 if they are clever enough ; )

Now for those over-achievers…

Or should we say the successful ones ; )?  Okay, okay – I’m flattering myself.  It seems that those who dare to conquer all that has been laid in front of us, tend to be taken advantage of the most.  It’s like the moment the family learns of your talents, someone said you would forever be bound in eternal servitude to the benefit of your family, – I mean you can’t even get a little credit…and not that we should be in the credit-seeking business (I hear it’s quite disappointing.) But, just common respect and courtesy from the family to recognize that despite your youthfulness and your having it together (from their perspectives), you are human, and to be human you do grow weary, you do grow tired. 

And without being compassionate to the “successful ones”, the family can in fact ride a good horse until it slowly dies beneath the saddle that you placed on it’s back. 

Don’t be a killer!

Don’t take the talents of others around you for granted through unneccessary abuse…especially for insignificant advantages, such as the pleasure of being competitive or as I prefer to say, “to one-up” somebody.

It’s not easy being the good child, remember he or she could have chosen to give up a long time ago and joined a team of slackers.  If this is you, I encourage you not to give up today.

If you are a slacker, I encourage you to strive to achieve more, and give your loved ones a break.

God Bless!