About Last Night: A Revelatory Dream


More frequently, God has been speaking to me in the format of dreams.
About Last Night…

I dreamed that there was a rowdy crowd of unfamiliar people in my home. This group was comprised of mostly men. What was even more troublesome, these people were crowded in my bedroom misusing my belongings with much disrespect. To make matters worst, my husband was home and did not appear to have a problem with these individuals invading our space.

God revealed that this dream had a message, but it wasn’t until later today that God provided the interpretation.

Many of us human beings are particular about protecting our belongings. Oh you know, we are mindful of our cell phones and our purses. We alarm our cars and even our homes. We are very careful to not leave our belongings around people we deem untrustworthy for one reason or another. Most certainly we are sure to not invite untrustworthy individuals into our physical homes.

But you know what’s funny? God allowed me to realize that while we are careful to do the above, we rarely guard our hearts and minds in these same ways.

Let’s discuss this in a way that resonates. How many of us have been having a “good day” where we have been in a great mood and it felt like the sun was shining all over the place? Then you walk into someone who says something to you that is interpreted as rude, they tell you “no”, or they criticize you about something that brings or reminds you of some sort of pain?

Well God is urging us to think in the same way about mental intrusion as we do about the intrusion upon our physical property. While we so readily guard material possessions that are physically replaceable, we should secure our beautiful minds even moreso, especially since we will only be granted ONE for the rest of our lives. Furthermore, this “one” mind that we have operates in a fashion where memories are stored and built on top of previous ones that are then reconstructed and in-turn shape our behaviors. These memories also shape the way we perceive things, how we interact and engage (or not engage) others, and so on for the rest of our lives.

In my dream the intrusive people can reflect mind intrusions (negative words, curses, or other disrespectful occurrences projected on us by other people & even what we choose to expose ourselves to experiencing on a day-to-day basis). Also in this dream, my husband (who protects me in my real life) represents security that was off duty for some reason or another.

In response to a recent Facebook post I made regarding comments received from others, my husband stated the following: “Looking good babe. Everyone has an opinion. CHOOSE who you listen to.” His word choice in this instance truly resonated with me. In most situations similar to this one people will repeat the all too familiar phrase, “be careful who you listen to”. But there was something about Jerrell’s decision to say “choose”. Knowing, loving, and breathing the same air as this man on a daily basis, I know that he is one who always stays true to self. This is a quality of his that I strongly admire and strive to emulate; yet I have historically struggled in this area. This “ole” open and fun-loving soul of mine has been misjudged and even abused in some instances, and I have unfortunately allowed some things to linger for too long.

Don’t get me wrong, God has been working on me with this, but I still have more ground to cover in this process. Today I say, “No More,” and I encourage you to join me on this journey.

Heard a negative word? Dismiss it.

Someone tries to curse you (knowingly or unknowingly)? Rebuke it.

Someone’s behaviors suggests that he or she dislikes or is jealous of you (at no fault of your own)? Ignore it.

Through all these things maintain your integrity and press on to accomplish the will of God in your life.

Please do not misinterpret what I am saying, there of course will be times when you are called to speak directly to an individual’s words against your life. During these times it is necessary that you pray (yes you have time to say a quick prayer in the spirit (to yourself), or you can pray for discernment about when and how to revisit something later) and ask the Holy Spirit to provide the words that are necessary so that God’s work might be done through you and for you.

Let us join in together to make a pledge to liberate ourselves from yet another form of spiritual bondage today! This is necessary so that we might be free to do the work that our Lord has called us to complete.

God Bless You!

Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”.


Where are your parents?

Have you ever heard the saying, “It seems those who have several kids don’t want them, while countless others are trying to have children to no avail.”?

If you haven’t then perhaps I made it up ; )

As a school psychologist intern, I hear children, yes children say some of the most disturbing things in school hallways. Now this is mostly on the middle and high school level. Thank God it isn’t as blatant with my babies on the elementary school level, but it still happens.

There are more than a few children today who are so grown when it comes to the words that fly out of their mouths, and even the actions they participate in, (i.e. early sexualization) yet they are so immature in their behaviors because, as I have mentioned before, they are only children.

No matter how quickly their “hormone-enraged and steroid-fed” bodies may develop, the brain and mindset of a child is what they possess.

I often reflect on my own childhood and the terrible things I said to fit in or so I wouldn’t look like “a punk”. Yeah “light-skinned with long hair…’thank’ she all dat” is what I battled occasionally during elementary and middle school in a setting where middle class African Americans met their lower-income counterparts.

Despite my semi-delinquent ways, my family and school teachers did not have a clue because I was a good child (overall) who had sense enough not to exhibit such behaviors in front of adults. ; ). In addition to this sense, I desired to be held in a high esteem by my family and my teachers. As a result, I respected all adults, and carried myself in a respectable manner in front of them. Don’t get me wrong, though I tried to “be-down” at times, my peers still knew me as a “church-girl who loves The Lord.”

Whew… I’ve thrown out a lot of labels here! I blame it on the stigmatizing society we live in. ; )

My whole point in discussing all of this is, what happened to the parents and children fearing them?

Yes I know, my perception is skewed because of the population I work with on a day-to-day basis; however, I still feel safe in saying,

Where are the parents?

Where are the mentors?

Hence my recent establishment of Ruth-Heart Ministry (TM), a volunteer agency that pairs girls from underserved populations with positive adult women mentors in the metro-Atlanta area.

If you would like to learn more about this organization or chip in, in anyway, do feel free to contact me.

Take care and God bless!

“Train up a child in the way he should go, and we he is old he will not depart from it.”~Proverbs 22:6

Blackness Extinguished

As I struggle to write the first sentence of today’s post, I am deliberately forcing myself to go back to the strong feelings I had yesterday. I distinctly recall driving to class from internship feeling burdened by the impending conversation on race and ethnicity that awaited me. This week’s readings in my Advanced Developmental Psychology course were centered around this topic, ironically a current trending topic-due to the recent murder of the Florida teen, Trayvon Martin.

Research suggests that conversations of this caliber are necessary in America and around the world if we are to evade the extinguishment of Blackness – the rocky shore of which the waves of society are currently crashing.

Said differently, as an African American, or globally labeled as Black/ a part of the African diaspora, woman; I look forward to a day when people who share my race (social construct designed for categorization, with no biological foundation) and ethnicity (cultural background – not mutually exclusive) will be valuable to society.

I also look for a day when more of my White counterparts will step out of the lens of White privilege (if you are not familiar with the research on this concept – I encourage you to go get your scholar on today ; ) and attempt to relate to the heart of a man instead of negatively judging him on his physical attributes and cultural behaviors.

I look for a day when a racial hierarchy no longer exists.

I look for a day when Black people are no longer stereotyped as being unintelligent – so much until some of the impoverished groups of Black children I encounter begin to believe that this is a fact about themselves.

I look for a day when people all around the world won’t fight to remove themselves from Blackness – as a result of maladaptive societal norms being established.

I pray for a day when people won’t have to reach hell or heaven before realizing that we are all souls just occupying a decorated vessel so that God might use us to accomplish His perfect will. If I have stepped on your toes, I encourage you to pray.

For this is just the beginning of a conversation that has endured since we realized skin color.

But why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord’ and not do the things which I say?” Whoever comes to me and hears my sayings and does them, I will show you what he is like: He is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on a rock. And when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently against that house, and could not shake it, for it was founded on the rock. But he who heard and did nothing is like a man who built a house on the earth without a foundation, against which the stream beat vehemently; and immediately it fell. And the ruin of that house was great.”
~ Luke 6:46-49 NKJV

Thank you for lending me your “ear”.

God Bless.